My Sex Life Changed from Mediocre to Mind-Blowing, Because of Kegels! Three Ways Kegels Can Transform Your Sexual Anatomy and Revolutionize Your Sex Life

by Alyce Adams, RN, BSN

After I gave birth to my daughter, my sex life sucked, for years. It wasn't just because my partner and I were exhausted and barely had the time for adult conversation, let alone sex. The problem was that sex just didn't feel the same for either one of us. We didn't have the same level of sensation we'd had before.

I'd heard kegels can help, but I didn't know how to do them right. Finding complete, accurate kegel instructions online was like looking for a needle in a haystack, so I ended up doing several months' worth of research and reading about kegels at my local medical library. I took the best of the best of the research I found and created the Kegel Queen Program, an easy, fast, relaxing way to do powerful, effective kegels.

A few weeks after I started doing the Kegel Queen Program myself, sex started to change for both of us.

And it changed bigtime.

Kegels have revolutionized our sex life. It's like being 21 years old again... except it's better than that. Kegels have not just solved our sex problems, they've taken sex to a whole new level for us.

Kegels can help with all kinds of sex problems. And if you're already having great sex, kegels can make lovemaking even better! Kegels can:

increase desire and arousal
improve lubrication (even after menopause)
build sensation (both for you and your man)
help you have more orgasms and better orgasms, and
reduce or eliminate pain with sex.

How does all this work? In this article, I can't cover it all, but I'll tell you about three ways that kegels can transform your sex life by building bigger, stronger, firmer muscles in your pelvic floor.

The pelvic floor is a sling, or hammock, of muscle at the opening of your pelvis. One of the pelvic floor's "jobs" in the body is that it's part of your sexual anatomy. It surrounds, and is attached to, the vagina and clitoris, and it cradles the uterus, helping to hold it in its proper position. The pelvic floor muscles are like any other muscles in your body: when you work out correctly, the muscles get bigger, stronger, and more firm. That's why it's so important to do kegels right. Most women don't have the facts about correct kegel technique, so they're missing out on the strong, bulked-up muscles kegels can get you, and the amazing sexual benefits that follow.

1. Better Circulation Leads to Better Sex
When you build up any muscle, you get better blood supply to that muscle. Doing kegels and building up the pelvic floor muscles gives you better circulation to that entire area of your body, including your sex organs. Good circulation is an essential part of good sex. Arousal and lubrication (and, ultimately, orgasm) depend on good blood supply. So by doing kegels and making sure your circulation is good, you're setting the stage for great sex.

2. Stronger Muscles Lead to Stronger Orgasms
When you have an orgasm, the pelvic floor contracts rhythmically every 0.8 seconds. Those pelvic floor contractions are a big part of what you feel during an orgasm. Which orgasm do you think feels more intense -- the one that contracts flabby, wimpy muscles, or the one that contracts massive, juicy, powerful muscles?

3. Kegels Firm and Tighten the Vagina
I know, this sounds like something out of your spam folder. But it's totally real. The pelvic floor muscles surround your vagina and give the back and sides of your vagina their structure. When those muscles are big and firm, it makes your vagina small and firm. It's pretty simple. A smaller, tighter vagina means better sex for you and your man. There's way more sensation with intercourse. Take it from me -- when I had a saggy, weak pelvic floor, sex was disappointing. Now I have a pelvic floor of steel, and sex is amazing.

Get serious about kegels, and have more great sex!

Alyce Adams, RN, the Kegel Queen, has been a registered nurse since 2001 and is the mother of one. She offers complete and detailed instructions for her original, research-based, fun and easy kegel program, teaching women everything about how to do kegels right in a two-hour course, at

All Kegel Queen informational material, including the material presented here, is for educational purposes only. It does not constitute medical advice and is not a substitute for medical advice or other medical care.